I'm all for sharing the moment with the ones you love even if they are still only knee height! Or babes in arms! But if you think the only way to include them is to have them is as part of your flower posse, ring security or walking down on someone's arm, then think again!
Some ideas I've used in ceremonies to include kids are;
💜 having them choose who says their vows first (there are several ways of doing this!);
💜 having their own choreographed entrance mid way in the ceremony;
💜 having them introduce you as married (no I do not officially have to say this!);
💜 writing vows for you to say;
💜 writing and saying vows to you in the ceremony;
💜 gift them with their own ring or family treasure;
💜 having a bubble guard of honour lining your aisle for your exit;
💜 a surprise performance as a gift to you (which your guests can join with too!)
💜 being part of an extra ritual such as a ring warming, handfasting, or sand ceremony (works well when blending families)
It all depends on their ages, level of comfort in public and their closeness to you and your partner...but there's a way for all ages to be involved and feel important in that moment.
As a mum of two young kids, who chose to get married once they were old enough to be involved and part of the ceremony too, I have lots of ideas to help create bright moments to have kids as part of your ceremony too!
Plus know that they are completely free to be themselves in the ceremony, they are always welcome up there with you at any time and I've been known to hold a hand or two in my time xx
PS. Know that if you choose to have a completely kid-free wedding then that is totally OK with me too, the most important thing is for you to do you! There's no reason the "kids included" ideas can't apply to a child aged 99 or 25! xx
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